I have always believed that arguing and fighting were not the same thing. Yet, lots of times when I thought I was just arguing, my interlocutors were furiously yelling fighting words at me because of my arguments.
I believe Jason Kottke and I could have some great arguments. He believes we should teach kids how to argue: "I had long equated arguing with fighting, but in rhetoric they are very different things. An argument is good; a fight is not. Whereas the goal of a fight is to dominate your opponent, in an argument you succeed when you bring your audience over to your side."
I just wish they would stop yelling at me all at once so I can finish my, er, argument.